Note-to-self #1

Wake up at the Same Time Everyday

A consistent daily schedule involves waking up at the same time everyday. When you work into that habit, the rest of your daily routine would follow. You'll wake up with a clear and focus mind by then.

The best time to wake up is at 7AM. 

Don't wake up later than that. The day feels longer when you wake up early, meaning you can do a lot of things in a day. Breakfast, exercise, shower and other daily routines are best done early morning than late morning. So your major activities for the day, won't be hindered by your unchecked morning routine.

Don't wake up earlier than that because I read in an article that the stomach repairs itself from 4AM-7AM. I'm not exactly sure if that's true. One great example is Steve Jobs who died because of Pancreatic Cancer. Maybe the Pancreas also repair itself at those times. And Steve Jobs is known to be an early riser, who wakes up earlier than 7AM. 

Etiquette of a Teenage Girl in Love

I always wanted to love a man. Care for him. Comfort him.  Be the most sweetest and romantic girl ever.  That's why when a man entered my life, and became my partner, loving him is the most fulfilling thing that I wanted to do for the rest of my life. But being madly in love, doesn't mean losing respect and self-worth. Here I listed most of the etiquette I follow as a young lady in love:

• Don't Pursue the Guy. 
• Ladies should remember that you are still a woman who should be pursued by a man. A guy should work hard for you. I don't believe in courting a girl only before the relationship, but I do believe in courting or pursuing the girl even during the relationship.
  
  
• A man should be the first to text, first to call, first to remember everything, even if it takes beating you in remembering important dates. At times, there are exceptions like if you want to text your partner good morning or goodnight messages, but if you still have the chance to wait, then wait for it. 
• If going to a guy's house, you shouldn't demand him to invite you in his house. He should invite you. And as a young lady, you shouldn't always be at a guy's house because other people would mistake it as you, pursuing him at his house.
• Leave him wanting more :)
• Always leave him with good conversation 
• On phone calls, if you've been communicating everyday , or been talking for long hours at night, most probably you'll be talking about the same topic over and over again, or you're just repeating your i love yous and i miss yous, just to pretend you're having a good conversation. 
• Short, new and meaningful conversation are better than long and usual conversation. So if you're left with dead air, then there's nothing wrong to end your conversation and be productive by other things. 
• Don't ever think of doing this that: at times, you want to make it a long conversation, by bringing up problems, which cause drama and annoyance (worse is turn off) to your partner. 
• Don't argue with him at all
• Don't look at his cellphone inbox because you're just finding reasons to argue 
• On facebook, you cannot avoid seeing his updates, and maybe posts of girls on his wall. Don't be jealous still. 
• Resist the urge to watch his every move online or in school or at work, because again, you're just finding reasons to argue. 
• Opening up your feelings with him, doesn't mean arguing with him. Don't open up just because you want to. Open up what needs to be open up . At times, guys will mistake it as nagging, so be careful. 
• Be in control of yourself and your partner
• Because you are pursued by a guy, girls will get everything in control. 
• Have a clear schedule when are you gonna meet and around what time is your date. As a young lady, dating twice a week is already maximum.
• If your partner, doesn't want to end the call but you have nothing to talk to and both of you are already sleepy, show that you are in control and end the conversation. 
• As a young lady, sex should not yet be a topic in your relationship. But if you already tackled about sex, just remember to be in control and don't do it on your every dates. 
• Be in control of yourself by not thinking too much about your partner. If you think too much, the tendency is you'll find something to argue, you might stalk his Facebook  you might disturb him by calling at unexpected time, and you might be annoyed by his social activities which doesn't involve you. Just be productive instead!

• take note of his comments on you
• If negative, don't think of it as offensive already. When a guy noticed, you should be thankful because, he could say that to you, and he could see those imperfections on you, and still love you. Take note but that doesn't mean, you change for him. You change for yourself, so you could feel better. 
• Let the man do what he wants
• One mistake I did before was, when my partner offered to go with me so I could arrive safely at my home, I would always decline, thinking that it would only be a hassle for him 'cos his place is far from mine. Now I realize, that at times, you have to let the man show how worthy you are. Let him be protective of you. Let him show his love for you. 
• Don't ever take him away from his friends and other activities
• Know your partner very well
• You would know his likes and dislikes, and his personality through the times you spent together, but if there are things which you wanted to do for him, but aren't sure about if it's okay with him, then do ask first. 

Piece of Advice

Advice told with anger and judgement won’t change you, 
IT BREAKS YOU.  

It breaks self-esteem, trust and relationship. 

It doesn't build love, 
It builds RESENTMENT.

Advice told with anger and judgement isn't anymore an advice, 

it just CRITICIZE. 

Advice told negatively, you won’t listen to 
‘cos it’s painful. 
When told most of the time, 
it numbs you.

Anger, judgement, criticism are something you won’t inflict to yourself. 
That is.. if you love yourself.

Anger, judgement, and criticism are usually given by the people around you. 
Worse, the ones closer to you.

Anger, judgement, and criticism are, they say, just ways to express their concern about you. 
But more often than not… those acts concern you.

There are better alternatives to anger, judgment and criticism. 
Remember that words are powerful. 
Words can be quick to judge. 
But there are words that enlighten.   

• Make this a mantra: Always be a better version of yourself

• Don't make trials and errors because we only got one life

• Reflect everyday. Because by doing that, you get to look in to your own mistakes. And you get a chance to listen to YOUR OWN ADVICE. And that way, you get to TRUST YOURSELF more. 

Now those are what you called Advice.